Posted by Anonymous on 2014/05/18 under Friends [This is about an online friendship] I could go on forever about this guy, but that would be tediously boring for those who don’t know him and can’t understand how I felt about him. For the sake of this story, I’ll refer to him as H. I might aswell give you some background information (purely because I want to, but feel free to skip this part. Also, I realize I’m just writing this for me and not anyone else but even so, I’d feel rude not acknowledging somebody’s existence if they were reading). I met him over a year ago. It might not seem like a long time, but for me, staying interested in somebody for that long is an accomplishment. I thought he was a total d*** when I first met him, but I couldn’t help smiling whenever he said something funny or witty and whenever he gave me the slightest bit of attention I would freak out (in a good way). Yes, this may have been a major over-reaction, but I seriously liked this guy. I’m still not sure why I liked him when he was a complete ass to me. Anyway, about half a year passed and his attitude stayed the same. So did my opinion about him. Well, I stopped thinking he was a d*** (wrongfully so) and became more and more attached to him. Now, on to my original thought. A mutual friend (former friend of his) gave me H’s Skype username, as he’d since made an account. I was pretty excited to talk to him after so long (yes, I still liked him a lot). I’ll skip the details but we ended up talking every day for at least 1-2 months. He’d changed completely. He was super friendly and sweet and I couldn’t get enough of him. I was the happiest I’d been in a while now that I had his friendship. We’d talk about life, how we were feeling, his old self and a load of stupid s***. We would joke around a lot and it was like we’d always been friends. Alas, all good things must come to an end, apparently. I really miss talking to him. I’ve never liked anyone as much as him and he was one of the best friends I’ve ever had.
Have you ever liked someone for so long and they either lead you on or switch from being lovely and kind to being nasty and horrible towards you? This is what it was like with him. Whenever he said something nice to me or showed me some attention I would totally disregard how mean he could be. Needless to say, people who knew him thought I was crazy, but I didn’t care. After a while though, I got fed up with him. The feelings were still there, but I just couldn’t be bothered to try to win his affection anymore. I stopped talking to him for a good few months. He (obviously) didn’t try to contact me so I ended up not thinking about him for most of that time.
We stopped talking as much. He stopped saying hi and rarely replied to my messages. If we ever spoke it was short-lived and he would often “leave me hanging”, as it were. I wouldn’t have minded if it wasn’t for how in-depth and great our friendship had been. He told me stuff, I told him stuff. I trusted him and he trusted me. So I thought, anyway. I haven’t spoken to him in about a month and he has stopped coming on Skype. I’m worried to leave him a message just in case I mess anything up further.
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There’s a crystal clear solution to this. Tell him exactly how you feel. About him, about your friendship and what it means to you. Don’t sugar code it, don’t hide anything. Tell him the truth.
I have a friend that started kind of the same way. We talked regularly for a couple of months through email, then he took longer and longer to reply, up to two months. Then he went silent for a year. A whole year he didn’t reply.
So I told him how he’d affected my life and that I wanted to repay him with my friendship and maybe in the future I would be able to return the favor – you know, that I could reach out to him with advice and help when he was down.
He replied, and we still speak daily via skype, on phone, and I’ve visited a couple of times.
If your friend doesn’t reply you, then you’ve done your part. No harm in that. But you’ll regret not trying.
Wow… My story is SAME. And when i say same i really mean it.. How can two people have the exact copy of the same story. But the thing with me is that the guy has a super hot girlfriend.. And i wont ever do the mistake of telling him that i ever liked him.. Because he has too much ego.. And i am not ready to make a fool of myself.. I know he is attracted to me but so coward that he wont ever accept me… Stupid me… But do write here if you tell him your feelings.. Looking forward to that… All the best.